Many people wonder why I would concentrate on men’s and father’s rights in divorce, family law and custody matters? After all, they say, isn’t divorce and family law specific enough?
Many are surprised that we would turn away 50% of potential clients when we already turn away about 90% of the possible legal work a law firm can get; we don’t handle personal injury, criminal and municipal court, landlord-tenant or even business and corporate law cases.
This journey has been a long-time coming. Our initial concentration into family law and custody issues arose from my early childhood experiences and law school education. I, like many, came from a divorced family. It was the quintessential “broken home” scenario where my father left my mother with four young children and refused to provide any alimony or child support.
My mother had no real work or financial experience. She had the daunting task of figuring out how to support four children and to keep us safe. She also was faced with the daunting decision of pursuing support from a man who chose, on many occasions, to go to jail instead of paying support. My mother finally decided that her efforts and time were being wasted chasing a “deadbeat dad” and abandoned any future support shortly after they divorced. Of course, my father sought no parenting time, so she also had no support caring for the four of us and no time for herself.
Fortunately for us, her hard work paid off. We are all happy, healthy, successful and happily married. My oldest brother is a board-certified cardiologist in Delaware, my other brother is an award-winning attorney in New Jersey, and my sister is a professional business analyst in Pennsylvania.
Concentrating on Men’s and Father’s Rights
When people hear this story, they are shocked that I would now lead a law firm that concentrated on men’s and father’s rights. My experience as a young child shaped my desire to help clients through the difficult and emotionally challenging divorce and custody cases. My desire to focus on men’s and father’s rights rise from two beliefs: one, you can be good at many things but only great on one thing and, two, the world has not changed that much.
What I mean by the world has not changed that much is I still see traditional beliefs and arrangements in many of the divorce and custody cases that come into my office. Men remain the main breadwinner and woman tend to take primary care of the children and receive alimony. Now, before everyone starts screaming at me, I am not saying this is everyone. I know that are countless exceptions and the definition of marriage and family grows in our society and under our laws every day. But, if were are being honest about it, the situation I described above remains prevalent.
Under this traditional arrangement, I have seen in my 23+ years as an attorney that men more commonly pay alimony and enjoy less custody and parenting time. It is this imbalance that I hope to avoid by concentrating on men’s and father’s rights.
What About Women?
The next question I get, which normally comes from a woman is, do we still represent woman? Yes, we can and do. As a matter of fact, having our focus on men’s and father’s rights helps our woman clients just as much because having such a powerful understanding of what men and fathers want in litigation, we are better able to guide our female clients tactically and in settlement discussions better. It’s almost like we are already in the minds and thoughts of their spouse.