Without a doubt, a divorce can be extremely difficult to reconcile for a number of reasons. Not only can it be time-consuming and costly in the legal sense, it can also leave you feeling both emotionally and physically drained. At times, the stress associated with a divorce can interfere with your ability to function on both a professional and personal level. As such, the biggest favor you can do for yourself is to learn more positive ways in which to cope during this very challenging time. This especially involves recognizing the stress that you are feeling, and learning how to be good to yourself, regardless of how awful you may feel.
Overall, this article may have you wondering why as divorce attorneys, we are writing about the more esoteric aspects of a divorce. While we are certainly not trained psychotherapists, we do know that unchecked emotions can lead to significant legal hassles and mistakes down the road. In this view, the following are some helpful tips you should consider in terms of better handing your divorce-related anxiety:
1. Realize that you are not alone. If you are feeling blue, do not hesitate to reach out to friends, family or a therapist to help you. A little love, support and therapy can go a long way when you are feeling overwhelmed about your divorce. Also, consider the fact that 50% of marriages end in divorce. As such, you are not the only one who has ever dealt with one, which makes it highly likely that there are others out there who can certain lend you a listening and “experienced” ear.
2. Hit the gym. Without a doubt, exercising is one of the best ways in which you can uplift yourself – both mentally and physically. Overall, physical exercise is an ideal way to relieve tension, anxiety and anger.
3. Don’t make split second decisions. Sometimes the stress and anxiety associated with a divorce can influence us to make hasty decisions that may negatively affect you in the future. Be sure to think things through and weigh all of your options.
4. Learn to let it go. For problems that are out of your control, there is absolutely nothing you can do. For instance, if your spouse is making your life difficult regardless of what you do, let it go and turn it around. Pitying them for the way they are acting may help you deal with them in a more civil, and perhaps understanding, manner. Also, be sure not to reflect on the “should haves” or “could haves”. What is done is done. Move on
5. Carve out some “you time”. Sitting indoors and stewing over your divorce isn’t helpful and may make you feel worse. Set aside some time for yourself, such as going to the park for a walk, or getting a massage. Taking these small steps can make a big and positive difference in your life.
6. Allow yourself to feel your feelings. Everyone knows that bottling in one’s feelings is counter-productive and also, damaging to your emotional and physical health. As mentioned above, it may be helpful to speak with a therapist or other individual that you trust to help you avoid destructive coping mechanisms, such as alcohol, drugs or tobacco.
7. Follow a healthy diet. It goes without saying that you are what you eat. With this in mind, eating healthy undoubtedly will raise your spirits and also, make you feel better about yourself as you shed some pounds in the process. There is nothing better than realizing your own personal goals and also, having others notice your milestones as well!
8. Speak with your attorney. Although an attorney cannot serve as your individual counselor, he or she can help to steer you in the right direction in terms of resources you can avail yourself of should you be struggling to manage your emotions. For instance, we have a list of specialists who we often recommend to clients should they be facing difficulties in coping with their divorce.