It is summer and with school out, many divorced or separated fathers in New Jersey working with us have a common question that goes along the lines of “I’d like to take the kids with me on my three-week vacation. We’d be going out-of-state. Can I do it?”
During the nearly-quarter century I have been a divorce lawyer for men and fathers in New Jersey, I’ve had clients ask me questions or make statements based on faulty or incomplete information that they found online, or because of something a friend told them.
From time to time, I tell a new client that there are some things in their life they do not need to disclose in a divorce if their wife doesn’t know about them. An extra-marital affair is an example. But one thing I tell every client regardless of the reasons behind the breakdown of a marriage: Do not ever try hiding income or assets during the divorce process.
Here’s a rule that is simple and easy to follow if you are a man or father getting a divorce in New Jersey: Don’t put anything on social media, dash out in a text or say in an email that you do not want to see used against you during settlement negotiations or introduced as evidence if your case ends up in court.
Without a doubt, no-fault divorce laws made ending a marriage for men and fathers in New Jersey simpler, less soul-crushing and often much less expensive then when somebody had to have their fault proven to a judge. While there remain grounds for assigning fault, they are difficult – and, often, painful to prove so it’s natural […]